How to Rebuild Your Life
& Relationship After
YOUR Affair.

A guidebook for MEN
& the women who
love them.

Who is this book for?

The Infidelity Cure is a book about Men, Relationships, and Affairs. It is written for men who have engaged in any type of affair behavior that are driven to reclaim their life, rebuild their primary relationship, and help their partner heal.

Affair recovery work is a transformative and humbling experience. It entails engaging in self-reflection, clarifying priorities, improving communication skills, and rebuilding trust with both your partner and within yourself. This courageous and empowering journey is aimed at helping you regain your sense of self, reconnect with your partner, and implement a comprehensive plan for healing and reconciliation.

You may be feeling uncertain about how to initiate conversations which support your partner’s healing process without unintentionally triggering greater upset. This is a critical time. How you respond and what you choose to share and not share matters. The Infidelity Cure includes a section entitled “Emergency Do’s and Don’ts” that provides guidance on how to avoid pitfalls such as oversharing and inadvertently saying or doing things that can worsen the situation. By following the guidance in this section, you can navigate the recovery process more effectively and contribute to a smoother healing journey.

By working through this material and hearing the stories of other men who have been in your position, you will gain greater insight into relational dynamics, understand how and why affairs happen, uncover what set the stage for yours, and learn ways to help you and your partner more effectively recover.

If you are a man who has been involved in infidelity of any kind, engaging in this work provides you with insights and tools to help you save your marriage, recover your self-respect and dignity, and rebuild trust. By following the guidance provided, you can increase the likelihood of recovering your relationship and yourself. This book can also serve as a great resource for any woman who loves a man who has been unfaithful, as well as counselors and coaches who work with infidelity.

Purpose

The purpose of this book is to facilitate effective affair recovery and in so doing strengthen communication skills, create greater self-awareness, foster the ability to clarify and make choices more consistently aligned with core values and beliefs and help couples learn how to be better partners.

Here are a few questions from other men diving into repair recovery work. Which ones stand out for you?

  • I want to save my relationship but am not sure where to begin.
  • I’m not sure how much to share with my partner about my affair, or if I should tell her if she doesn’t already know.
  • I don’t know how I can convince my partner that the affair is really over and that I am truly committed to making our relationship work.
  • I am confused by my partner’s shifting moods—one minute I begin to feel her love, the next her rage, or sometimes I find her uncontrollably crying.
  • It crushes me to see the pain my actions have caused. I don’t know how to help my partner believe how truly sorry I am.
  • I’m not sure if she will ever forgive me, or if I can ever forgive myself.
  • I just don’t know what to do next to make things better.

The Infidelity Cure is designed to help you effectively address these challenges and more, learn how to build a bridge back to the person you want to be, rebuild trust within your relationships, and forge a more meaningful connection with the person you love. Trust me, it can be done!

Inspiration for the Work

This work is inspired by the many courageous men who have come to my office wanting to be better men. It has been my honor to walk beside these men as they courageously faced their defeats, triumphs, fears, desires, and choices. I have witnessed their fierce determination to make things right at home and to become stronger leaders, better role models, and men whose integrity could no longer be called into question.
I sat with these men through their anguish, grief, shame, and search for greater meaning and purpose. I listenedto their stories and helped them put their lives back together, and, in most cases, recover their relationship. I witnessed the hard work, dedication, and commitment these determined men put into making the changes necessary to support their own growth and healing, rebuild trust, help their partners recover. and forge a deeper and more meaningful connection with those they love.
It is to these men, and the women who love them that I dedicate this work. I am honored by your faith and trust in me. It has been my privilege to serve as your guide and learn from you.

This book is also dedicated to you, its reader. It is my hope that you find pearls of wisdom that help you better know and respect yourself and your partner, appreciate your relationship more fully, and create a healthy and thriving life. 

I wish you courage, the courage to choose love, even when it scares you to do so, the courage to set self-supportive boundaries, offer apologies and forgiveness for missteps, and the wisdom to make choices aligned with your core values and beliefs.

May you know the experience of being fully alive and deeply loved as you continue to learn, grow, recover, and expand who you are as individuals and in relationship with those you love and care for. May you be inspired to heal, recover, and create the best life possible for yourself, your family, and all those whose lives you touch.

—Dr. Jeanne Michele

Purpose

The Infidelity Cure, by Jeanne Michele, PhD, is the result of her twenty-plus years of research in the relational field and her experience helping hundreds of men and couples recover from infidelity and other relational crises. Dr. Michele earned her doctorate in clinical psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute in Santa Barbara, California. In addition to her work with individuals and couples, she has extensive experience training corporate leaders to effectively resolve conflict, strengthen their leadership skills, and create stronger, more vibrant teams. Dr. Michele is known for her compassionate, practical, and non-judgmental approach.

Pre-Order The Infidelity Cure

Exciting News! The Infidelity Cure is now available for pre-order in ebook and print format on Amazon. Be among the first to dive into this powerful guide which officially launches on October 8th. The print edition will also be available for purchase on the release date. Don’t miss out—reserve your copy today!